Getting Published at xojanedotcom
January 14, 2013 § 10 Comments
Through excited proclamations at pre-school drop-off and a status update on my Facebook fan page, I tried to spread the word about my article that was published today at xojane.com.
I purposely avoided my regular Facebook page, as I know there are spies there who follow my every move and report back to my soon-to-be ex when they deem something worthy of his attention. Those spies need to find something else to do.
Because of the spies, and the nature of the piece itself, which I entitled, “I Knew My Marriage Was a Mistake,” I questioned whether to publish it under a pseudonym or whether to publish it at all.
I’m sick and tired of writing about divorce. I think I may be done for a while (although another article regarding help for co-habitating spouses is in the hands of another editor at a different publication). Today’s piece has garnered over 200 comments, though, so it appears that it struck a chord with the readers. This is what ever writer wants, so the inner debate continues.
Despite my divorce and the litany of reasons why it had to happen, I really don’t wish any ill will on my daughters’ dad. I know he won’t be thrilled about his role in my story, which is the kittenish reason I have kept it off his radar.
Secrets don’t stay secrets, though, do they?
At some point I’m going to be confronted, at which point I will say something like this, “…and what day are you taking the girls to school this week?” or this,”…the handyman will fix the garage door on Tuesday.”
Avoiding arguments is key when living with a separating spouse (if Babble would publish that piece already you’d know that this is rule number one).
M.
Do you think that some things are sacred and should never be mentioned or written about (assume we agree on with minor or victim protection, of course)?
Totally unrelated, but much more fun to share is my vote for best dressed at the Golden Globes 2013. Nicole Richie in this long-sleeved lavender blue embellished Naeem Khan! Styled with the with blue eye and the House of Harlow fringe bag? There’s a reason she’s a style icon. Source
Congrats on your article’s publication! That’s a great response you’ve gotten. As for Nicole Ritchie, that woman has made quite the turn around from her earlier reality TV days, hasn’t she? She’s just lovely.
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Thanks Carrie. I imagine it’s even more exciting to have a book published. Where did you find the time to write yours?
Totally agree about Nicole… quite the transformation!
My book was a long process in the making.
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What fantastic news– congrats!!
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Thanks Laura.
I’m really proud of you for writing it and putting it out there. There are so many emotions that your piece touches on and clearly has resonated with lots of folks (myself included). So happy for you. xox
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You are always so supportive. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it! xx
Brave girl…so proud of who you are!
You know how much I loved your article. As far as what’s sacred, I think each of us has our own barometer for that and as long as we’re true to that barometer, we’re doing OK. One day, I will write about my divorce – I’m just “not ready” yet – hopefully, my piece will be as honest and brave and beautifully written as yours. xo
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Telling the truth is what makes you a writer. Bravo to you for such a truthful and poignant post. You rock.