So Blogging Sad

November 28, 2012 § 12 Comments

Earlier this evening I read a blog that was sad, sad, (double, triple) sad.

The writer (a working mother with an enviable full-time position) wrote post after post about her broken heart; the boyfriend she loved, the relationship that would never work, her pain, her sadness, the loneliness, the loss.

It got me thinking.

I’m not that sad about the break-up part of my divorce.

Yes, it will be sad to lose my house; for the kids not to have their parents together; for the loss of the potential that was there.

Sad about the break-up I am not.

Maybe it’s because we killed the marriage so thoroughly that the break-up part is a relief.

Maybe having my heart broken (mere minutes after exiting my teenage years) was so painful that I never since put myself in the position to be heart-broken again.

There was so much sad emanating from that grown-up woman’s blog over her grown-up sad, sad break-up.

Am I wrong to find that a little immature? How many times does a person’s heart need to be broken before they stop allowing it to happen? She mentioned she had an ex-husband. Was her heart broken then too?

It’s possible that my own heart was so hardened by the deep pain of young heart-break that I just can’t understand a grown person wallowing in love lost.


What do you think? A Shrink? And for whom …

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§ 12 Responses to So Blogging Sad

  • Carrie Rubin says:

    As I’ve been married for years, I’m not sure I can answer that. But I can say i would likely never be so open and forthcoming in my own blog. Kudos to those who can be, but I am not one of them. 🙂

    • Martha Merrill Wills says:

      Wait… aren’t you the lady who wrote that great post about the new baby and its grandfather or your stinky intern days! 🙂 I’m not sure I deserve kudos, but thanks. Sometimes stuff just gets written and I worry about being so forthcoming later!

  • ilene says:

    You and I really DO live parallel lives. My heart is not broken in the least over my divorce. I am relieved, and like you, maybe it’s because the last 2 years in my marriage just killed it. Like you, I often wonder if I’m hard hearted after a lifetime of heartbreak – starting with the betrayal/abandonment of my own dad and it just went on from there. Detached? Denial? I’m not sure what – but I would not put it past needing (more) therapy to fix!

    • Martha Merrill Wills says:

      I love being in therapy…getting to think about my choices and bounce ideas off of a safe neutral party. I need to examine the stuff about being hard-hearted too. It’s strange because I love LOVE! XO

  • Paige says:

    I can relate will tell you about it later.

  • That IS sad. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume her husband left her and took her by surprise. I acutally DO think people can be heartbroken at any age but airing it out like Taylor Swift when you’re over 40 can be a little embarrassing.

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